The Truth About Miscarriages

It's Personal

Today we will introduce you to 4 common miscarriage misconceptions that can be confusing to anyone. ​My husband (Geoff) and I (Toni) come at this conversation from a deeply personal perspective with having two miscarriages ourselves. There is a lot to cover and share. Over the next 4 weeks we are going to talk about each of the misconceptions and why they are not necessarily true for all women or an out right lie. We will also address how miscarriage effects women both physically and emotionally. We invite you to comment and share your thoughts with us at any point in the series. Please know that you are not alone, you are loved, your babies will always be cherished.

What is Miscarriage? 

Miscarriage occurs more often than we realize and there are a lot of misconceptions floating around. According to theAmerican Pregnancy Association, "Miscarriage is a pregnancy that ends on its own within the first 20 weeks." It is considered the most common type of pregnancy loss. 

4 Misconceptions 

• "It is just like a heavy period/ It happens in one gush of blood." I will sharing details about my 2 early term miscarriages. Both had similarities but were two completely different experiences. I will go into details about the physical and emotional aspects of miscarriage and overall reasons why it is "More than just a heavy period."

• "The earlier the better." Maybe someone has said this to you, or maybe you have even said it to yourself "At least it was early." There is a stigma that the earlier the miscarriage, the easier it is to get over it and move on. This isn't true for everyone. we will discuss how this isn't mentally helpful and can potentially cause more harm than good.

• "I thought I was safe after 13 weeks." We've seen and heard it many times. "The first 13 weeks have passed and now it's safe to announce our pregnancy!" We are going to discuss how this sets a false expectation, and how this sets a precedence that early miscarriage can't be talked about. 

 

• "Miscarriage should be kept a secret" We are going to dig deeper as to why this is so, how it can create harmful emotional effects such as isolation and shame. We will also discuss why talking about our miscarriage can be helpful and bring healing. 

Stick With Us 

In the next few blog posts. We will uncover each of the misconceptions and discuss specific topics on miscarriage. Stay tuned for our next two blogs where I share about my two miscarriages and discuss the 1st misconception “it’s like a heavy period”. We hope you found this post helpful and that you know you are not alone, you are loved and we are here to support you in any way that we can.

Authors

Geoff and his wife Toni Brabec are the founders of GTBrabec, a personal family brand that is centered around the loss of their firstborn child Olivia Hope. In 2019 they created and launched, Our Little Sparrows Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support. The Brabec’s support families that are currently faced with a life-limiting or fatal pregnancy diagnosis no matter the outcome. They provide personalized doula services during the pregnancy as well as Grief Care through teaching the Grief Recovery Method© after their pregnancy. Geoff is on the Board as the Volunteer Coordinator and a current volunteer facilitator supporting grieving parents through their losses with Sharing Parents of Sacramento Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support Group. After they lost their sweet Olivia almost 7 years ago the Brabec’s found Sharing Parents and soon became volunteers with the organization that gave them so much when they needed it.

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